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If money can't buy love, the why do people buy these expensive marriage rings and expensive weddings?

Like, a future husband will buy an expensive ring 4 her future wife and pay 4 an BIG wedding. And about 96% of the tyme those marriages don't even last long. Why can't couples can jus be simple and jus get a ring that's REALLY worth something in the inside than jus or havin an enormous price tag and having a simple wedding than big weddings.

Public Comments

1. It's not 96% for one and for two, because they CAN. They buy those things because they CAN AND WANT TO. We buy what we can afford and that's that. Our wedding is big because we have a lot of family and friends that are important to us. Some people like simple weddings, it's each person choice. Some people do it to 'show off'. Why does it matter to you? You sound a little jealous if you ask me.
2. You can rent it.
3. I asked my fiance to buy me cubic zirconia for my engagement ring. I did not want real diamonds because I could not justify the cost and I also did not want to support the bloody, earth damaging trade of the diamond mines. My husband I had a beautiful wedding with about 80 guests. We had it at a fancy restaurant and spend the most money on food. We did not have a DJ or any elaborate entertainment. It was lovely and everyone complimented us on how nice everything was. I think many American women are very materialistic and want to pay out the nose to be a "princess" for the day. I just wanted to be married....I didn't need a $50,000 wedding to make me feel like a princess, my husband makes me feel like a queen every day.
4. People can do whatever they want with their own money. If the can afford a big ring and a big wedding, so what? What is it to you? Bitter much? You sound extremely jealous. The fact that some can afford a large wedding, doesn't mean that they don't care for marriage any less than those that spend less. Are you implying that people if people have a big wedding, their marriage is ultimatly doomed? Please. Does spending only $50 guarantee you marriage bliss? No Envy is a bad counselor. Have a nice day PS/ Generalization is te epitome of ignorance
5. First of all, 96% of marriages don't fail, it's more around 50%, and that's regardless of how much money is involved. People who have "expensive" rings and "expensive" weddings may not consider those things expensive. Expensive is a very relative term, for some people a person making $50K a year is wealthy, for others it's $250K. It's all relative to how you look at it. It's not anyone's place to judge how another person or couple chooses how to spend their money. If having an expensive ring and large wedding isn't important to you, then don't do it and put your money elsewhere. If you want it, and you have the means to do it, then why not? It doesn't mean that a couple who spends more money on their wedding doesn't love each other just as much as the couple who have a very simple courthouse ceremony. It also doesn't mean that the couple who have the simple ceremony loves each other more. Marriage is work. I've been married almost 21 years, and it's work. It doesn't matter if you've got a lot of money or a little money, you've got to learn to compromise, live together, set common goals, etc. I have a good marriage not because my husband and I may or may not have a lot of money, we have a good marriage because we value each other as individuals, we support each other in our marriage and our goals, and we make time for each other. Money matters, but not how much of it a couple has, it's how well that couple manages their money.
6. First of all, the husband doesn't pay for the wedding: the bride's parents generally do, at least in 92% of cases according to the new Emily Post. The engagement ring and her wedding ring are the only two things a groom traditionally provides to the wedding process (other than his lovely self, of course). There actually was once a logical and sensible reason for the big ring. Back in the old days it was common for women to not have sex before the engagement (again, for a sensible reason - birth control wasn't very good). There were of course always men who promised marriage just to get in women's knickers, but who would repudiate the engagement when it became time to move on (or when the rabbit died). In the pre-war years it was possible for a woman so scorned to bring a breach of promise suit, the product of which would theoretically pay for her loss of virtue (or at least pay for her to relocate at a time when women were often shunned as subhuman scum-of-the-earth whores for having it known that they had sex before marriage, even if everyone did it). But after the war the American courts began denying breach of promise suits. It then became necessary to find another way to prevent men from proposing in order to get sex. Hence the expensive engagement ring. If you had to spend the modern equivalent of $5,000 just to get sex, you would find someone else unless you were Elliot Spitzer. It's interesting that the de Beers ads urging men to buy their girlfriends big rings were first printed over twenty years AFTER the fad for big engagement rings began. In other words, the diamond industry didn't create the big ring fad: jerks who lied to women and the need to protect women from these jerks created it. Nowadays many people believe that if a couple can't afford a big ring, they probably can't afford to get married. I'm not at all convinced of this, but it seems to me that the guys who are viciously dismissive of the need for an engagement ring are often the same guys who are viciously dismissive of anything that doesn't directly benefit them and only them. It's hard to believe that a guy who spends $5,000 a year on porn and video games honestly thinks a $2,000 diamond is a waste of money, especially if it makes his girlfriend (who should be more important to him than porn and video games) happy. It comes across as ego - "what I want is more important than what you want, because I am superior to you".
7. People can do whatever they want with their money, like buying an expensive ring, paying for a big wedding, or getting an education and learning how to spell.
8. I suppose if people what to spend their money on things like that it is up to them. I think there is always a key in moderation, but thats me. Who am I to tell someone how to spend their money? And who are you?
9. GOOD POINT! and i dont believe in buying expensive crap.. i just want a simple ring and a wedding by civil thats it. lates
10. I ditched the expensive wedding to go to Hawaii & we got married on the beach instead by ourselves. But that's me. I think people should do whatever they want as long as it's within their budget. 10k to one person is like 100k to another.
11. Believe it or not money isn't an issue for everyone, even in this economy. Not to celebrate love and marriage as well as it can be and with as many of the people who love a couple seems as ridiculous to some as spending "too much" does to others.
12. I agree 100% with Bountifiles on this one. Some people aren't feeling the sting of the economy, and have the right to spend their money as they see fit. Otherwise, you're looking to develop a communist society in the U.S. If a couple can afford these things without any debt, and choose to have a celebration of their love with their friends and family that is what's deemed an extreme amount to some, it's their choice. Like someone else said...for some, spending $100k or more is equivalent to someone else spending $10k. It doesn't make the love any less real or lasting, just as a smaller budget and ring doesn't either. Some people on this board have been quick to judge my wedding plans due to our budget. It may be out of jealousy or something. I don't know. But what they don't realize is that nothing is completely "charmed"...meaning, they don't see the struggles my FH and I have sometimes with dealing with my MS. Money can't buy me a cure, but we are sure to donate plenty towards this cause. And I am secure about the love that my FH has for me and shows me in more ways than with just the big ring he bought me. EDIT: wow! I disclose something very personal about my health and still get a thumbs down?? wow. just amazing.
13. Because the people have more money than they know what to do with. Some girls are just gold diggers.
14. Same reason people spend an arm and a leg on funerals. For show.
15. ugh broke people are so bitter. learn how to spell, you'll make more money!